With Saturn in the 7th house, you are serious about your relationships but that could be taken in different ways. One of the classic features of this placement is that often the subject may not marry or commit to a relationship until after the first Saturn return, and sometimes not until they are much older. Maybe this is because you know that it is a serious commitment so you need to be sure. But maybe it’s because where Saturn sits in the chart, we often have an unswerving desire to avoid that area of life at all costs.
You may be drawn to those who offer you the security you need, or you may run at the thought of getting hitched. Saturn poses a challenge. This is the area of life where you are required to develop self-mastery and maturity but the thought of opening up and being vulnerable to someone else can be a frightening prospect. Maybe you want to be strong and resist. Maybe you don’t want to be tied down or obliged to anyone else. Perhaps you struggle with commitment or fear that your partner will. Relationships are rarely black and white but it can feel like all or nothing.
You may be drawn to those who display typical Saturnian traits – someone in business; someone who is solid and reliable; ‘husband or wife material’, a traditionalist. Some with this placement may find themselves with an older partner. Going deeper, subjects with Saturn in the 7th House may find themselves with a partner who is more like a parent. If this manifests, it can be helpful to look back at your own parent’s relationship to see how this may have impacted upon you. In a similar vein, you may be drawn to someone who suits your parents or society’s expectations of you.
Saturn in the 7th House can have high standards and expectations. Negatively expressed, this placement can trigger a ‘never good enough’ trait. It may be that you are casting the bar too high or setting yourself up for failure before you’ve even begun for fear of being hurt. Sometimes too, it’s easier to find the partner inadequate than deal with your own short-comings. Dissatisfaction becomes a wall around you. Planets in the 7th house are often disowned and projected onto the partner.
Sometimes this placement can generate a fear that you just aren’t lovable enough or good enough to be with someone else resulting in loneliness and isolation. Issues around partners and even open enemies may test your limits. Occasionally some natives with this placement attract partners who are overly strict or limit their freedom in some way either through personality or through health issues. Often this is a manifestation of the subject’s own fears being played out through another. Sometimes, depending on other aspects, this placement can indicate staying with a partner long after the expiry date. If these negative manifestations play out, it is a clue to look within to find your own inner Saturn and form a better working relationship with yourself first and foremost.
When Saturn is in the 7th house or in a challenging aspect to Venus, often people moan and groan, my love life is doomed! But Saturn can instil stability just as much as fear. We all need a little bit of Saturn in a relationship to give it staying power. Don’t forget that Saturn is exalted in Libra, the sign corresponding to the 7th house.
Whilst you may find it more difficult to initially make the leap, once you commit, you commit. Saturn in the 7th house can indicate longevity in relationships. Sometimes there are fewer partners taken or fewer opportunities for love to blossom but when the connection is there, you pay it the serious attention it deserves. As realist, you are less inclined to be swept away by big promises and fairytale romances but as a result, your partner has the benefit of the real you. Your caution can pay dividends. ‘For better or worse’ is ultimately a Saturnian line. With growing awareness, Saturn gives you the self-discipline to work on yourself and to recognise that relationships too take work.
When functioning well, Saturn can manifest as a responsible and loyal partner. Whilst you may not be inclined to be overly demonstrative, you show your abiding love in other ways such as being a rock for your partner to lean on. Love for you is a verb. Far from never being happy in marriage like the old interpretations suggest, Saturn in the 7th house shows that you have the potential to reach a great level of maturity and understanding not only of your partner but of yourself. When there is an inner marriage within the self then you can meet your partner adult to adult, choosing to be with them on level ground; independent yet walking side by side, sharing the journey of life through all its ups and downs.
Painting – ‘Sonntäglicher church’ by Carl Friedrich Lessing